02 Nov Finding the Perfect Wedding Dress
When I got engaged the first thing I did was spend a week planning my wedding in my head. I could see the setting, flowers, and tabled but it took me a little while to envision the dress I might be wearing. From the beginning I imagined that I wanted a rustic wedding. I could see it being somewhere outside with greenery and wild flowers everywhere. For the type of outdoor summer wedding that I wanted I knew my dress would have to be light and comfortable. More than anything I did not want a dress the was too cumbersome or “felt like a wedding dress”. I started like so many people do, I made a Pintrist board. My husband (at the time fiancee) looked with me. He sweetly suggested boards or dresses to check out. All of his picks were right on target!
Quickly we decided that we did not want to do a first look at the wedding. We really wanted the first time we saw each other to be at the ceremony as I was walking down the aisle. I know it is a little old fashioned but looking back I am so happy we did this. Knowing that he would not see me or the dress before the ceremony, I showed him the stores I was planning on going to. Involving him in this way and with Pintrist made me feel like he was really a part of the decision.
After looking for inspiration I started looking at local sites to see where I might like to go. When making appointments for wedding dresses I scoured websites to make sure that they had enough pretty but casual dresses. The options were incredibly limited! However, I found a few stores that I wanted to go look at. My mother and maid of honor came to visit me and I made a few appointments to look at wedding dresses with them. We set out to look at the first store, Anthropology’s bridal boutique. I was pretty disappointed with the quality of the dresses. More than anything everything I tried on was uncomfortable. I wanted something that I would be able to dance in and have a good time without being itchy or squeezed to death.
We set out on the second appointment and it was slightly better than the first. I tried on a couple of crocheted mermaid style dresses. They were really pretty but still not perfect. Many of them had long trains or were difficult to get on. Luckily the second store was very open to customizing any of the dresses if that was what I decided I wanted. Overall, it was a positive experience but I still did not find something that I thought was perfect.
Next I went to a little bohemian wedding dress store. The woman who owned the store also designed all the dresses. She was incredibly sweet and accommodating. When I walked in I saw a ton of dresses that I liked right away. Everything was very well made, used all silk and lace, and it was a beautiful shop. When trying on the dresses even the samples were flattering! My mom and maid of honor both liked a lot of the choices and I did too. As much as I loved everything in the shop it was very expensive. Given that I was trying to plan a wedding without going too over budget this was something I had to think about. Once again I decided to wait before buying anything.
I returned home feeling a little defeated. The dresses I had tried on were either not perfect or really beautiful but far too expensive. I started thinking about alternative options for finding a dress. I found a few websites that had gorgeous designs and were very reasonable. I decided that the best way to do it would be to buy a bunch of options and then return everything except the one I wanted. I realized that even with doing this and getting it tailored it would still be less expensive than buying a boutique wedding dress.
I picked a bunch of designs from a few different websites and ordered them. When they came I was swimming in dresses but I had a bunch of options to work with. I would try on a bunch and send pictures to my mom and maid of honor. We decided which were definite “no’s” and which were worth hanging on to. I was so surprised with the quality of the dresses for the price that they all were. Eventually I narrowed it down and picked one that I thought was totally perfect. I choice a local tailor that came highly recommended. I was happy to spend a little bit of extra money on someone who was fantastic so that the dress would fit perfectly.
After a few rounds of having it tailored the dress finally looked like it was totally made for me. It was light and feminine. Not to mention it looked as good or better than some of the really pricey dresses I had tried on. In the end I was so satisfied with my choice. More than anything, it was worth it to see the look on my husband’s face as I was walking down the aisle.